Insecurities and What Have You


Every so often, I hear interesting topics on the radio. Not surprising though, DJs nowadays are expected to be more vocal and engaging with their listeners, and playing good old music are secondary. The popular FM radio programs are often opinionated, liberal and even graphic. Such is Boys Night Out, featuring DJs Slick Rick, Sam Y G and Tony Toni. The naughty trio often talks about love, relationships, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus stuff, and of course - sex. I am not a big fan, but I have to admit that they have impeccable talent to lure you into a topic and just never let you go.

With the boys a few weeks back

Over dinner, my boyfriend (who's a BNO listener), told me something interesting about last night's episode. He said the trio asked their female listeners to call and answer the question: WHAT ARE YOU INSECURE ABOUT? I assumed that girls would often be insecure about weight, breast size, waist and hip line. Surprisingly, he told me that a lot of callers actually complain about their height - which I find a bit weird. Anyways, he then smiled mischievously and directed the question to me. It took me a few seconds to answer, because humility aside, I think I'm a fairly confident person (perfect ba kamo? Haha!). Of course I'm not saying I'm perfect, far far from being one. But I'm rarely insecure because I choose not to ponder on things that I don't have, but rather leverage on aspects where I know I'm truly blessed. On exceptionally difficult times when I'm feeling unworthy, I take a step back and look at things from a different perspective. 

Choice and Perspective. Two powerful tools that can keep us sane. Choice is an inherent blessing, so use it. Choose what will make you happy, choose to be with people who matters, choose to live your life according to your own account, choose to be comfortable in your own skin, and if all else fails, look at things and people and happenings from a different angle and perspective. Get in someone else's shoes. It may not give you solutions, but it can give you a fresh view, put you on neutral grounds, and help you find a new beginning making yourself more resilient, more confident.

But in the spirit of fun and inevitable reality, I'm spilling my insecurity beans and like to point out that I wish I have a flawless face and a flatter tummy. But everything else, my chunky puckers, my R18-worthy hips and bottom (LOL), my too prominent cheekbones, my monolids, I can just shrug them off and live imperfectly perfect.

How about you, is there something you're insecure about physically? Nothing to be ashamed of, we're humans, not robots. We can be flawed and still do the greatest of things, yeah? Fire away!

Much Love,


  1. We all have our insecurities - what would life be w/o them? Those who are thin claim they want to gain weight, the straight haired want curly and vv. What a world we live in! Mahirap makontento!
    What's impt is we're happy and CHOOSE to be happy despite of what we have :)

    Love your post, sis! :)

    The Misty Mom

  2. Hi Shari! That's very true, people (including me!) always want what they don't have and vice-versa. I think it's out nature to be always looking for more, but yes, it's a choice to be happy and content. :)

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts pretty mom-to-be. You're gorgeous! :)


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